Why Many Beginners Give Up Too Soon in Remote Connection: A Lesson in Patience and Sacred Devotion

Many beginners enter the world of Remote Connection with excitement, only to quickly fall short of their expectations. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that results should come instantly, but this microwave mentality often leads to frustration and disappointment.

Here's a common thought many beginners face:

"I sent energy to them today, so they should be reaching out tomorrow."

When nothing happens right away, they might feel disheartened, thinking:

"They just don't feel it, or maybe Remote Connection is a scam!"

In this post, I'll explore the mindset that leads to early burnout and help you understand why mastering Remote Connection, like any sacred art, takes time, dedication, and the willingness to learn and grow.

Let's dive in.

The Two Types of Beginners: Jack vs. Max

Imagine two friends, Jack and Max, both embarking on a journey to deepen their connections and improve their relational lives. Both have been reading about self-improvement and energy work, eager to explore what's possible. But their paths take very different turns based on how they approach setbacks.

Jack's Journey: The Struggler

Jack enters the practice with high hopes, but soon he faces obstacles. His nervous system feels chaotic. His energy work doesn't seem to create any tangible shifts. After a few weeks of practice with no dramatic results, his confidence takes a hit. Jack thinks:

"Maybe I don't have what it takes. This isn't working for me."

Even though his friend Max encourages him to keep practicing, Jack can't shake the disappointment. Instead of seeing challenges as part of his growth process, he gives up. The thought of failure becomes overwhelming, and the drive to keep going fades away.

Jack wanted magic. What he got was a mirror.

Max's Journey: The Seeker

Max, however, embraces the challenges he faces. Instead of getting discouraged, he views obstacles as opportunities to learn. He practices daily, refines his techniques, and seeks out feedback. Max joins online communities, invests in mentorship, and reflects deeply after each session.

Through time and persistence, Max starts to notice subtle shifts. He understands that real progress isn't about overnight transformations—it's about accumulating small, consistent changes that compound over time. Slowly, his energetic literacy deepens, and soon he finds that the very things that once felt difficult are now second nature.

Max wanted mastery. And he was willing to earn it.

Beginners in Remote Connection: The Same Patterns

The same patterns unfold in Remote Connection. Beginners who approach it like Jack often carry unrealistic expectations. They expect immediate, dramatic results, and when they don't see them, they believe they've failed.

But Remote Connection isn't magic tricks—it's a skill that requires time, practice, self-reflection, and spiritual maturity.

Meanwhile, those who approach it with patience and perseverance tend to see results faster—not because they're more talented, but because they stay in the practice long enough for the skill to develop.

They understand that Remote Connection is not about instant gratification. It's about building and refining a capacity over time. This growth mindset leads to greater success in the long run.

The Key Differences: Jack vs. Max

So, which beginner are you—Jack or Max?

Ask yourself:

• Can you endure a bit of uncertainty without collapsing into doubt?
• Are you willing to stay motivated even when results don't manifest immediately?
• Can you learn from both your successes and setbacks, and seek guidance when needed?
• Are you humble enough to admit you don't know everything yet?

Max-like beginners are the ones who succeed. They are patient with the process and consistently put in the effort to improve, even when things don't go as planned. They use each setback as an opportunity for growth and learning.

On the other hand, Jack-like beginners tend to fall short because they lack the resilience to continue in the face of adversity. Their success, if any, often feels like a stroke of luck rather than a product of sustained effort.

But here's the deeper truth:

Jack isn't failing because he lacks ability. He's failing because he hasn't yet developed the inner foundation required to hold this work. Remote Connection demands:

• Emotional regulation – You must be able to stay grounded even when you don't see immediate feedback
• Energetic sovereignty – You can't be dependent on external validation to know your practice is working
• Sacred patience – You must trust the unseen, the subtle, the slow unfolding
• Devotional consistency – Showing up daily, even when it feels like nothing is happening

These qualities aren't prerequisites. They're what the practice builds in you over time.

What Most Teachers Won't Tell You About Timeline

Here's something that might surprise you: the timeline for developing Remote Connection capacity is predictable obviously people's paths differ.

Most people experience this progression:

Weeks 1-2: The Honeymoon Phase
Everything feels possible. Your visualizations are vivid. You're motivated and excited. You practice daily and feel like you're making progress. Some people even report small synchronicities during this phase.

Weeks 3-6: The Desert
This is where most people quit. The novelty wears off. Your visualizations start to feel repetitive or forced. You don't see dramatic external results. Doubt creeps in. Your practice becomes inconsistent. This is the critical threshold where Jack gives up and Max doubles down.

Weeks 7-12: The Subtle Emergence
If you've pushed through the desert, you start noticing something different. Not dramatic results necessarily, but a shift in how you feel during practice. Your nervous system begins to regulate more easily. You develop sensitivity to subtle energy. You start to notice feedback you couldn't perceive before.

Months 4-6: The First Real Breakthroughs
This is when external validation typically begins. The person you're connecting with starts behaving differently around you. Synchronicities become undeniable. Your energetic literacy is developed enough that you can feel when you're in genuine connection versus projection.

Months 7-12: Integration and Refinement
The practice becomes natural. You no longer have to force it. Your capacity for presence and connection has integrated into who you are. You can access coherent states on command. You understand the ethics and boundaries intuitively.

Beyond Year 1: Mastery
At this stage, Remote Connection isn't something you do—it's something you are. Your energetic field naturally creates resonance. You can read subtle dynamics in real-time. You know how to work with connection without grasping or manipulation.

Here's what's important to understand: Jack quit at Week 4. Max is now in Month 8.

The difference in their results has nothing to do with talent and everything to do with staying power.

The Hidden Skill You're Actually Developing

Most beginners think they're learning how to "send energy" or "influence someone remotely."

That's not what's actually happening.

What you're really developing is energetic coherence.

Let me explain.

Remote Connection doesn't work through force or projection. It works through resonance. And resonance requires you to become energetically coherent first.

Think of it like this:

When you strike a tuning fork, it vibrates at a specific frequency. If you place another tuning fork nearby that's tuned to the same frequency, it will begin to vibrate without being touched. That's resonance.

But if the second tuning fork is damaged, out of tune, or covered in mud—it won't resonate. No matter how perfectly the first tuning fork is vibrating.

You are the tuning fork.

And for the first several weeks (or months) of practice, you're not learning to "send energy to someone else"—you're learning to clean the mud off your own tuning fork.

This is why the practice feels like it's "not working" in the beginning. You're still dysregulated, reactive, grasping, needy, chaotic. Your field is generating static, not signal.

The early weeks of practice are about:

• Learning to regulate your nervous system
• Clearing your field of desperation and attachment
• Developing genuine presence instead of performed calm
• Building the capacity to hold someone in awareness without collapsing into need

This is invisible work. There's no external feedback. No one's texting you to confirm it's working. But it's the most important work you'll do.

Because once your field is coherent—once you're a clean, tuned instrument—resonance happens naturally.

That's when Remote Connection starts to feel effortless. Not because you've learned some advanced technique, but because you've finally become the kind of energetic presence that naturally creates connection.

Can You Transform Like Max?

If you identify with Jack, don't despair. You can transform like Max—but only if you're ready to put in the effort.

The key question is: Do you want to?

If you're willing to embrace the learning process, face setbacks with an open heart, and stay committed to your personal growth, then you're on the right path. Transformation takes time, and by investing in the journey, you'll unlock your potential.

But if you're still looking for shortcuts, hacks, or quick fixes—this path will frustrate you.

Remote Connection rewards the devoted. It opens to those who approach it as a sacred art, not a manipulation tactic.

The Truth About Remote Connection

Remote Connection, like any worthwhile endeavor, requires dedication and patience. If you're serious about mastering this skill, you must:

1. Manage your expectations
Understand that Remote Connection is a process, not a quick fix. The most profound shifts often happen quietly, beneath the surface, long before they become visible in the external world.

2. Invest time and effort
Like any art, it requires practice and perseverance. Daily practice—even 10-15 minutes—compounds over weeks and months into real energetic literacy.

3. Embrace challenges and setbacks
View them as opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. Every "failed" attempt is actually feedback showing you where to refine your practice.

4. Seek guidance and mentorship
Remote Connection is a skill, and the right guidance can help you avoid common pitfalls. You don't have to walk this path alone and it can speed up your learning curve.

5. Develop your energetic literacy
Learn to sense the subtle. Most beginners give up because they don't yet know how to read the feedback their practice is generating. The signals are there—you just haven't developed the sensitivity to perceive them yet.

The Sacred Foundation: Why Most Beginners Fail

Here's what most teachings won't tell you:

The reason most beginners fail isn't lack of technique. It's lack of foundation.

They try to build Remote Connection on top of:

• Unhealed attachment wounds
• Desperation and neediness
• Ego-driven conquest mentality
• Disconnection from their own body and energy

And then they wonder why it doesn't work.

Remote Connection requires you to be energetically coherent first.

You can't transmit clarity if you're chaotic inside.
You can't create attraction if you're repelling yourself.
You can't hold space for another's soul if you haven't learned to hold your own.

A Different Kind of Success

Max didn't succeed because he was naturally gifted.

He succeeded because he was willing to fail—and keep going anyway.

He succeeded because he treated Remote Connection as a spiritual practice, not a transaction.

He succeeded because he understood that the real transformation wasn't out there in getting someone to respond—it was in here, in becoming the kind of person whose energy naturally creates resonance.

And that's the paradox:

The moment you stop needing Remote Connection to work, it starts working.

Not because you've given up, but because you've finally stepped into the energetic frequency that makes connection possible.

Your Next Steps: Two Pathways to Mastery

If you're ready to walk this path like Max—with patience, devotion, and sacred intent—I invite you to choose your pathway.

Start Here (Free)

Download my free guide, Seven Pillars of Remote Connection, to build your foundation and understand the principles that make this work effective.

[Download here]

Pathway 1: Self-Guided Mastery

A Complete Guide To Developing Presence And Coherence Through Remote Connection

This 100+ page guide provides everything you need to develop genuine Remote Connection capacity on your own timeline.

What's inside:

The 5-Step Framework explained in complete detail with examples and troubleshooting
The 7 Core Principles that govern how remote connection actually works—why regulation matters, how fields interact, what creates attraction vs. pressure
Nervous System Regulation Training — how to achieve and maintain coherence, the foundation for everything else
Ethics Framework — when this practice is appropriate, when it becomes violation, how to work with integrity
Integration Practices — preventing obsession and keeping this work from consuming your life

This guide gives you everything you need to start practicing correctly.

Investment: $67

This is for people who:

✓ Are self-directed and implement well from clear frameworks
✓ Want to develop this capacity at their own pace
✓ Can self-regulate with written guidance
✓ Are ready to commit to consistent practice

[Get the guide here]

Pathway 2: Intensive Training With Direct Calibration

The 4-Month Remote Connection Intensive

This is direct daily training in building genuine capacity with real-time feedback and calibration.

What we develop:

Month 1: Regulation & Presence Foundation

Learning to:

• Return your nervous system to baseline coherence
• Practice without activating
• Distinguish regulation from performed calm
• Hold someone in awareness without grasping

By end of Month 1: You can achieve calm coherent presence on command and maintain it during practice.

Month 2: Field Literacy & Calibration

Learning to:

• Sense genuine resonance vs. one-sided projection
• Read when you're creating pressure
• Recognize field expansion vs. contraction
• Adjust based on what's actually happening

By end of Month 2: You can tell in real-time whether you're in genuine connection or projection.

Month 3: Advanced Practice & Containment

Learning to:

• Hold desire without it leaking as pressure
• Practice across distance without creating interference
• Maintain coherence even with strong attraction
• Work ethically without violating boundaries

By end of Month 3: You can maintain coherent presence with someone you're intensely attracted to without grasping.

Month 4: Integration & Sustainable Mastery

Learning to:

• Prevent practice from becoming obsession
• Integrate capacity into natural operation
• Bring this into physical-world interactions
• Maintain long-term without corruption

By end of Month 4: This capacity is integrated into who you are, not something you have to consciously maintain.

What's included:

 Daily 1-hour coaching sessions with real-time guidance
 24/7 Voxer/Discord access/google meet for state checks and calibration
Complete practice library with regulation protocols and integration work
Ethical framework training on boundaries and responsibility

This is for people who:

✓ Recognize they need training, not just information
✓ Are willing to commit 4 months to building real capacity
✓ Want direct feedback on their state and practice
✓ Are ready to face their own dysregulation and grasping patterns
✓ Understand this is about coherence, not control

[Book a free 30-minute consultation here]

On this session, I'll assess what you're currently experiencing, determine if you're ready for this work, and map out your specific path. No pressure. Just honest assessment.

How to Decide Which Path

Choose the guide if:

✓ You're self-directed and implement well from frameworks
✓ You want to develop at your own pace
✓ You can self-regulate with written protocols
✓ $67 feels like the right starting investment

Choose the intensive if:

✓ You know you need external calibration
✓ You've tried practicing alone and keep falling into projection or grasping
✓ You want someone to tell you immediately when you're creating pressure
✓ You're ready to commit 4 months to building genuine capacity
✓ You understand real development requires consistent training

Not sure which is right?

Start with the guide. If after 4-6 weeks you realize you need real-time feedback and calibration, the intensive is available. Many people begin with the guide, establish the basics, then realize they want direct training to refine their capacity.

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Till next time,

Your friend,
Tomas

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P.S. — The difference between Jack and Max wasn't talent. It was commitment. If you're still reading this, you're already more like Max than you think. The question is: will you honor that part of yourself with the practice it deserves? Let it be slow. Let it be sacred. Let it transform you.