The Problem With "Psychic Seduction" (And Why Remote Connection Changes Everything)

I need to tell you about a shift that's been happening in my work.

For years, I've used the term "psychic seduction."

It was the language I inherited when I first discovered Amargi Hillier's work. It was provocative. Attention-grabbing. And honestly, it worked—it got people curious enough to explore something most would dismiss as impossible.

But after 12+ years of practice, study, and watching how this terminology affects both practitioners and the work itself, I'm making a deliberate change.

I'm retiring "psychic seduction" and embracing a more accurate term: Remote Connection.

This isn't just semantic rebranding. It's a fundamental shift in how I understand and teach this work.

Let me explain why this matters—and what it means for your practice.

What "Psychic Seduction" Got Wrong

When I first encountered the term, I didn't fully grasp the baggage it carried.

The word "seduction" implies:

• Force and manipulation
• One-sided influence where someone "wins"
• Bypassing consent and autonomy
• Treating connection as conquest
• Hidden agendas and covert operations

And here's the problem: that framing corrupts the practice from the start.

When you approach this work believing you're "seducing" someone psychically, you're training yourself to:

• Override rather than attune
• Force rather than allow
• Manipulate rather than resonate
• Take rather than exchange

This creates practitioners who:

Get inconsistent results because they're working against natural field dynamics, not with them.

Develop obsessive patterns because they're focused on control, which breeds grasping and attachment.

Damage their perceptual capacity because violation—even subtle energetic violation—destroys your ability to sense accurately.

Struggle with ethics because the terminology itself suggests bypassing someone's agency is the goal.

I've seen this play out hundreds of times.

People come to this work looking for a way to "make" someone attracted to them. They practice from that frame. And they either:

1. Get temporary results that backfire when the forced intensity collapses, or
2. Never develop real capacity because they're practicing manipulation instead of coherence

The language we use shapes the practice.

And "psychic seduction" was shaping it in the wrong direction.

What Remote Connection Actually Is

Here's what I've learned after 12+ years of working with this:

You cannot force attraction. You cannot override free will. You cannot manipulate someone into feeling connection that doesn't have genuine potential.

What you CAN do is:

Develop the capacity to consciously participate in the energetic dimension of connection that's already happening naturally between all human beings.

Let me break that down:

Remote connection is:

The practice of maintaining coherent presence across physical distance in a way that allows natural resonance to organize when genuine potential exists.

It's built on three foundations:

1. Nervous System Coherence

Your ability to regulate your own state—to return to calm, grounded presence regardless of external circumstances.

This isn't just breathing exercises. It's developing actual capacity to:

• Recognize when you're activated vs. when you're genuinely calm
• Shift from dysregulation to coherence within minutes
• Maintain stability even when thinking about someone you're intensely drawn to
• Hold desire without it leaking as pressure

2. Energetic Literacy

Your ability to accurately perceive what's happening in the subtle field between you and another person.

This means learning to distinguish:

• Genuine resonance vs. your own projection
• Mutual attraction vs. one-sided wishful thinking
• Clean presence vs. energetic pressure
• Opening vs. closing in the field

3. Ethical Practice

Understanding that sustainable capacity requires integrity—not because ethics are "nice to have," but because violation corrupts your ability to perceive accurately.

When you practice against what the field is showing you—forcing where there's closure, holding where there's contraction—you destroy the very sensitivity that makes this work possible.

The Science That Changed Everything

What convinced me to shift the language wasn't just philosophical—it was the research.

Over the past decade, we've seen explosive growth in understanding:

Biofield Science

The electromagnetic fields generated by the heart extend several feet beyond the body and interact measurably with other people's fields.

When two people are in coherent presence—both regulated, both genuinely present—their fields synchronize in detectable patterns.(Link)

This isn't metaphor. This is measurable electromagnetic interaction.

Nervous System Co-Regulation

We now understand that human nervous systems are designed to influence each other.

When you're in someone's presence (physical or energetic), your system is constantly:

• Detecting their state (regulated vs. activated)
• Responding to their frequency
• Either synchronizing with coherence or reacting to dysregulation

This happens automatically. The question is: are you doing it consciously or unconsciously?

Heart Rate Variability Research(link)

HRV coherence—the state where heart rhythm becomes smooth and ordered—creates measurable effects:

• Enhanced perception of subtle information
• Increased intuitive accuracy
• Greater emotional clarity
• Improved capacity for genuine presence

The practitioners who develop real capacity aren't the ones practicing elaborate visualizations.

They're the ones training their nervous systems to achieve and maintain coherence.

What This Means for Your Practice

If you've been working with "psychic seduction" techniques, here's what you need to understand:

The practices aren't wrong. The frame is.

When you reframe this work as Remote Connection, several things shift:

1. You stop trying to force and start learning to recognize

Instead of: "How do I make them attracted to me?"

You ask: "Is there genuine potential here? And if so, how do I remove enough of my own interference that natural connection can develop?"

2. You prioritize regulation over intensity

Instead of: "I'll practice harder with more elaborate visualizations"

You focus on: "Can I maintain coherent presence without grasping? Can I hold them in my awareness without creating pressure?"

3. You develop actual perceptual capacity

Instead of: "I felt something so it must be real"

You learn: "What does genuine field perception feel like vs. my own projection? How do I calibrate this accurately?"

4. You practice with integrity

Instead of: "I'll do whatever works to get results"

You understand: "Violation destroys capacity. Ethical practice protects it. I need both to develop sustainably."

The Two Levels of Learning This Work

After teaching this for years, I've seen two distinct paths people take:

Path 1: Self-Directed Learning (The Guide)

Some people want the framework, the principles, the practices—and they're ready to implement on their own with guidance but without hand-holding.

For this, I've created: A Complete Guide To Developing Presence And Coherence Through Remote Connection

This 100+ page guide gives you:

The 7 Core Principles that govern how remote connection actually works—not theory, but functional principles you can test in your own practice

Progressive protocols for developing coherent presence, accurate perception, and ethical application

Complete failure mode mapping so you know exactly what ambushing, leaking, fantasy collapse, and energetic overwhelm look like—and how to avoid them

Integration practices that prevent this work from becoming obsession

The ethics framework that protects your capacity while teaching you to practice with integrity

Nervous system regulation training so you can distinguish activated state from genuine coherence

Timeline navigation so you understand how to work with natural development rhythms instead of forcing your preferred schedule

Investment: $67

This is for people who:

• Want clear protocols they can implement immediately
• Are self-motivated and don't need daily accountability
• Have some experience regulating their nervous system
• Can self-assess and course-correct with written guidance

[Get the guide here] → [link]

Path 2: Intensive Training (The 4-Month Program)

Other people need more than a manual. They need:

• Real-time calibration on their state
• Immediate feedback when they're drifting into projection
• Daily accountability and practice structure
• Someone who can say: "You think you're calm but there's activation in your chest—keep breathing"

For this, I offer: The 4-Month Remote Connection Intensive

This is direct, daily work with me where we build embodied capacity together.

What you get:

Daily 1-hour coaching sessions (4 months)

Not group calls. Not pre-recorded modules.

One-on-one work where I:

• Guide you through practices in real-time
• Calibrate your nervous system state as you practice
• Call out fantasy, projection, and grasping the moment it appears
• Show you what genuine coherent presence actually feels like

Complete practice library

Every protocol structured for daily use:

• Nervous system regulation sequences
• Coherence building practices
• Containment work (holding desire without leaking)
• Release ceremonies (letting go without collapse)
• Integration exercises (preventing obsession)

24/7 access via Voxer/Discord

For:

• State checks before you reach out to someone
• Calibration on what you're actually perceiving
• Support when you're spiraling into attachment
• Real-time course correction on your patterns

Honest assessment of what's real

I'll tell you:

• When what you're feeling is genuine resonance
• When you're in projection or wishful thinking
• When to stay present and when to release
• What your nervous system is actually transmitting

This is for people who:

• Are serious about developing embodied capacity, not just intellectual understanding
• Want direct feedback and calibration they can't get from a book
• Are ready to face their grasping, dysregulation, and projection patterns honestly
• Understand that real capacity takes time and consistent practice
• Want someone who will call out their bullshit while supporting their growth

[Book a free 30-minute consultation] → [link]

How to Know Which Path Is Right for You

Choose the guide if:

✓ You're self-directed and implement well from written protocols

✓ You have some experience with nervous system regulation already

✓ You're working with this more as personal development than urgent need

✓ You want the framework to explore at your own pace

✓ $67 feels like the right starting investment

Choose the intensive if:

✓ You've tried to develop this capacity on your own and gotten stuck

✓ You struggle to tell when you're regulated vs. when you're just performing calm

✓ You keep falling into obsessive patterns and need external calibration

✓ You're ready to commit 4 months to building real capacity

✓ You want honest feedback you can't get from self-assessment alone

✓ You understand that mastery requires investment and you're ready for that level

Not sure which is right?

Start with the guide. If after working through it you realize you need deeper support, the intensive is always available.

Many people begin with the guide, implement for 1-2 months, then realize they want direct calibration and move into intensive work.

There's no wrong path—only the one that fits your current readiness and resources.

What Doesn't Change

Here's what I want to be clear about:

Everything you've already learned still applies.

If you've practiced remote influence before, the techniques still work. The energetic principles are the same.

What's changing is the frame—the lens through which you understand and apply this work.

Think of it like this:

You can use a hammer to build or to destroy. The hammer hasn't changed. But your relationship to it—and your understanding of what you're doing with it—determines whether you create something beautiful or cause harm.

Remote Connection is simply a more mature, more accurate understanding of the hammer you're already holding.

The Practices Deepen. The Results Become More Consistent.

When you shift from "how do I seduce them psychically" to "how do I develop coherent presence that allows natural connection to organize," several things happen:

Your results become more consistent because you're working with field dynamics instead of against them

Your practice becomes sustainable because you're not burning out your nervous system with forced intensity

You develop real perceptual capacity because you're learning to sense accurately instead of project wishfully

You can practice with integrity because the frame itself supports ethical application

Your mental health improves because you're training regulation instead of reinforcing obsession

This Is an Invitation

I'm not asking you to abandon what you know.

I'm inviting you to deepen it.

To see this work through a clearer lens.

To develop the capacity that creates lasting results instead of temporary spikes.

To practice with the integrity that protects your ability to perceive accurately.

Whether you choose the guide or the intensive:

You're choosing to participate consciously in something that's happening anyway—the energetic dimension of human connection.

Most people do this unconsciously their entire lives, never understanding why some connections persist and others fade, why they can feel someone's presence across distance, why certain people leave imprints that never completely disappear.

You're choosing to learn the mechanics. To develop the literacy. To practice with intention.

And that changes everything.

Ready to Begin?

For self-directed learning:

[Get A Complete Guide To Developing Presence And Coherence Through Remote Connection] → [link] ($67)

For intensive training:

[Book your free 30-minute consultation for the 4-Month Program] → [link]

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To your coherence,
Tomas

P.S. - If you're still using "psychic seduction" language in your own practice, I'm not judging you. I used it for years.

But I'm inviting you to notice what that frame creates in you:

Does it make you more grasping or more present?

Does it increase clarity or confusion?

Does it support ethical practice or encourage bypass?

The frame matters. And when you shift it, the practice deepens.

P.P.S. - "But Tomas, I've gotten results with psychic seduction techniques. Why would I change what's working?"

Fair question.

And yes, you can get results working from that frame—I did for years.

But ask yourself:

Are your results consistent or sporadic?

Do connections last or do they spike then collapse?

Can you maintain coherent presence or do you spiral into obsession?

Do you trust your perception or are you constantly second-guessing?

If you're getting clean, consistent, sustainable results with complete mental clarity and ethical integrity—keep doing what you're doing.

But if any of those are struggles, the frame is the issue.

Remote Connection solves for all of them.

P.P.P.S. - One more thing:

The people who resist this shift the most are usually the ones who most need it.

If you're feeling defensive about the term "psychic seduction"—if you're arguing internally that it's fine and I'm being too sensitive—

That's worth examining.

What are you protecting? And why?

Just something to sit with.