7 Practical Steps to Begin Remote Connection Practice

If you've been reading about remote connection but haven't actually started practicing, you're not alone.

Most people get stuck in one of two places:

Either:

• They dive in with intense, elaborate visualizations that create burnout and obsession
• Or they never start because they're overwhelmed and don't know where to begin

Both lead to the same outcome: no sustainable practice.

The people who actually develop capacity don't start with advanced techniques.

They start with simple, grounded practices that build the foundation for everything else.

This post gives you those foundational practices.

Not theory. Not mysticism. Just the seven practical steps that create sustainable development.

If you've been wanting to start but didn't know how—or if you've been practicing but struggling with consistency—this is for you.

Before You Begin: What This Practice Actually Is

Remote connection isn't about:

• Forcing someone to think about you
• Sending elaborate "psychic messages"
• Spending hours in intense visualization
• Creating dependence on the practice

Remote connection is:

The development of coherent presence that can be maintained across physical distance—allowing natural resonance to organize when genuine potential exists.

It's a nervous system practice first, an energetic practice second.

The people who succeed build daily rhythms that support regulation, not activation.

These seven steps create that foundation.

Step 1: Start With Regulation, Not Visualization

Most people make this mistake:

They jump straight into visualizing connection before establishing baseline nervous system coherence.

The result?

Their practice comes from activated state—grasping, desperate, dysregulated.

Which transmits pressure, not presence.

What to do instead:

Before any visualization or connection practice, spend 5 minutes establishing regulation:

• Breathe deeply until your heart rate settles
• Body scan to release tension
• Ground in physical sensation (feet on floor, weight in chair)
• Check your state: Are you calm or activated? Receiving or grasping?

Only practice from regulated state.

If you're anxious, needy, or desperate—regulate first. Then practice.

Or don't practice at all that session.

Quality of presence matters more than quantity of practice.

One regulated session creates more genuine effect than ten activated ones.

Step 2: Keep Sessions Short and Consistent

Most people either:

• Practice for hours when they're obsessing (creating burnout)
• Or practice sporadically when they remember (creating no momentum)

Neither builds capacity.

What works:

Two 15-minute sessions daily:

• Morning session (within 30 minutes of waking)
• Evening session (before sleep)

Structure each session:

• 5 minutes: Regulation and grounding
• 10 minutes: Coherent presence practice

That's it.

15 minutes. Twice daily. Every day.

This rhythm:

• Doesn't consume your life
• Builds actual capacity through consistency
• Prevents obsession
• Creates sustainable practice

You don't need elaborate hour-long rituals.

You need brief, regulated, consistent practice.

Step 3: Practice Presence, Not Fantasy

Here's the critical distinction most people miss:

Fantasy-based practice:

• You imagine elaborate scenarios with them
• You construct conversations or situations
• You visualize specific outcomes
• You create detailed narratives

This activates your nervous system and creates projection, not presence.

Presence-based practice:

• You simply hold them in your awareness with appreciation
• You feel warmth or connection without constructing scenarios
• You maintain coherent state without needing anything specific to happen
• You're present with what is, not creating what you want

The difference:

Fantasy requires constant mental construction.

Presence simply is.

In your practice:

Instead of: "I'm imagining us having this conversation where they tell me they love me..."

Do this: "I'm holding them in my awareness with warmth and appreciation. I'm present. I'm calm."

Less construction. More being.

That's what creates genuine presence.

Step 4: Make It Sensory, Not Just Visual

Effective presence practice engages your whole nervous system, not just your visual imagination.

Instead of just seeing them in your mind:

Feel:

• Warmth in your chest when you think of them
• Expansion in your body
• Softness or openness
• The quality of calm presence

Notice:

• Your breath deepening
• Your shoulders relaxing
• Physical sensations that arise
• The somatic experience of coherent presence

This isn't about creating elaborate mental imagery.

It's about your nervous system learning what coherent presence feels like in your body.

Over time, this somatic awareness becomes your primary feedback:

You can feel when you're in genuine presence vs. when you've drifted into fantasy or grasping.

Step 5: Practice Non-Attachment

This is where most people fail:

They practice with desperate attachment to specific outcomes.

"I'm visualizing them texting me."

"I'm sending energy to make them think about me."

"I need this to work so they contact me today."

This grasping energy destroys the practice.

It broadcasts need, not presence.

It creates pressure, not resonance.

What to practice instead:

Hold them in your awareness with genuine appreciation for who they are—without needing anything from them.

Ask yourself during practice:

"Can I feel warmth toward them without needing them to respond?"

"Can I hold them in my awareness without grasping for contact?"

"Am I genuinely okay if nothing changes today?"

If the answer is no—you're not ready to practice yet.

Regulate further. Release the grasping. Then practice.

The paradox:

Non-attached presence is what allows natural resonance to organize.

Grasping attachment is what prevents it.

Step 6: Build Gradually Without Forcing

Most people want immediate, dramatic results.

They practice with intensity, trying to force connection into being.

This creates:

• Burnout
• Obsession
• Pressure the other person's nervous system can feel
• Fantasy collapse when results don't match expectations

Sustainable development is gradual:

Week 1-2: Focus only on achieving regulated state before practice

Week 3-4: Add brief presence practice (5 minutes max)

Week 5-6: Extend to 10-minute sessions

Week 7-8: Establish the twice-daily rhythm

Month 2-3: Notice subtle shifts in your capacity

Month 4+: Assess whether natural resonance is organizing

This isn't sexy. It's not dramatic.

But it's what actually works.

Step 7: Integrate, Don't Obsess

The sign that your practice is healthy:

It supports your life instead of consuming it.

Healthy integration looks like:

• You practice your 15-minute sessions, then return to your day
• You're not constantly checking your phone for their response
• You're not analyzing every interaction for "signs"
• You maintain your other relationships, work, and interests
• The practice enhances your wellbeing, it doesn't create anxiety

Unhealthy obsession looks like:

• You're thinking about them constantly outside of practice
• You can't focus on anything else
• You're checking social media obsessively
• You've abandoned other parts of your life
• The practice creates more anxiety, not less

If you notice obsession patterns:

You need integration work, not more practice.

Reduce your practice time.

Focus on regulation and release.

Get support if you can't break the pattern alone.

What Changes With This Foundation

When you establish these seven practices as your foundation:

You develop actual capacity instead of just having sporadic experiences

Consistency builds neurological pathways.

Brief daily practice creates more development than intense sporadic sessions.

You can tell when you're in genuine presence vs. projection

Your somatic awareness develops.

You feel the difference between regulated and activated.

You recognize grasping energy immediately.

You maintain coherence without becoming obsessed

The practice supports your life instead of consuming it.

You can hold someone in your awareness without needing constant contact.

You develop genuine non-attachment.

You transmit clean presence instead of desperate pressure

Your nervous system learns what coherent presence feels like.

You stop broadcasting need, anxiety, or grasping.

You hold space without creating energetic overwhelm.

You build sustainable practice that lasts months and years

No burnout.

No fantasy collapse.

Just steady, gradual development of genuine capacity.

Where to Go From Here

These seven steps are the foundation.

But foundation is just the beginning.

Once you've established consistent practice:

You need:

• Understanding of the principles that govern how this actually works
• Frameworks for distinguishing genuine resonance from projection
• Ethics guidance so you practice with integrity
• Integration protocols to prevent obsession
• Assessment tools to know if you're developing real capacity

I've created two resources to support this development:

For Self-Directed Practice:

A Complete Guide To Developing Presence And Coherence Through Remote Connection

This 100+ page guide provides:

The 7 Core Principles that govern remote connection—so you understand why these practices work and how to apply them

Progressive protocols that build on this foundation—what to practice after you've established the basics

Complete failure mode mapping—every way this practice can go wrong (obsession, projection, fantasy collapse, energetic pressure) and how to avoid them

Integration practices—how to maintain your life while developing this capacity

Ethics framework—when remote connection practice is appropriate and when it crosses into violation

Verification methods—how to know if you're actually developing capacity or just experiencing confirmation bias

This guide takes you from foundation to advanced practice.

Investment: $67

[Get the guide here] → [link]

For Intensive Development With Direct Feedback:

The 4-Month Remote Connection Intensive

If you want to establish this foundation with real-time calibration and feedback:

Month 1: Establishing regulation and consistent practice rhythm

I guide you through:

• Finding your baseline coherent state
• Building the twice-daily practice habit
• Distinguishing regulated from activated
• Catching yourself in grasping energy

Month 2: Developing genuine presence vs. projection

We work on:

• Feeling the difference between presence and fantasy
• Recognizing when you're creating vs. receiving
• Building somatic awareness
• Accurate self-assessment

Month 3: Integration and non-attachment

You develop:

• Capacity to practice without obsessing
• Genuine non-attachment
• Clean transmission without pressure
• Sustainable rhythms

Month 4: Advanced application and assessment

We assess:

• Whether genuine resonance is developing
• Your actual capacity vs. wishful thinking
• How to proceed based on what's real
• Long-term practice integration

What's included:

• Daily 1-hour sessions with direct feedback
• 24/7 access for state checks and support
• Complete practice library with all protocols
• Real-time calibration on your nervous system state
• Honest assessment of your development

[Book a free 30-minute consultation] → [link]

How to Decide Which Path

Choose the guide if:

✓ You're self-motivated and implement well from written guidance

✓ You want to establish practice at your own pace

✓ You can self-assess and course-correct

✓ $67 feels like the right starting investment

Choose the intensive if:

✓ You want direct feedback on your practice

✓ You need external calibration to stay regulated

✓ You struggle with obsession or grasping patterns

✓ You're ready to commit 4 months to building this capacity properly

✓ You want someone to tell you immediately when you drift into projection

Not ready for either?

Just start with the seven steps outlined in this post.

Practice for 30 days:

• Two 15-minute sessions daily
• Regulate first
• Practice presence, not fantasy
• Build gradually
• Integrate, don't obsess

After 30 days, assess:

Are you developing consistency?

Can you maintain regulation?

Are you avoiding obsession?

Is the practice supporting your life?

If yes: You're ready for the guide to deepen your understanding.

If you're struggling: You might need the intensive for real-time support.

The Foundation Matters More Than You Think

Most people skip foundation work.

They want advanced techniques, elaborate protocols, dramatic results.

But without foundation:

• Advanced practices just create more elaborate projection
• Intensity leads to burnout
• No sustainable development happens
• They quit within weeks or months

With solid foundation:

• Every advanced practice builds on stable ground
• Intensity is balanced with integration
• Real capacity develops steadily
• Practice sustains for years

These seven steps are the foundation that makes everything else possible.

Don't skip them.

Don't rush through them.

Build them properly.

Everything else grows from here.

Ready to build the foundation?

Start practicing today with these seven steps and download my free guide seven pillars of remote connection here.

Want guidance for what comes next?

[Get the complete guide ($67)] → [link]

[Book consultation for intensive training] → [link]

To your practice,
Tomas

P.S. - The most common mistake I see:

People practice these steps for 3-4 days, see no immediate results, and quit.

Real development takes weeks and months.

Not because the practice is ineffective.

Because nervous system rewiring is gradual.

Commit to 30 days before assessing results.

That's when the foundation solidifies.

P.P.S. - If you're thinking "but I want faster results"—

That urgency itself is the problem.

It's grasping energy.

It's what prevents genuine presence.

The practice IS the result.

Learning to maintain coherent presence for 15 minutes twice daily without grasping?

That's already transformation.

Everything else grows from that.

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